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We’re really good at spotting rejections…

interpretation reflection rejection relationships self-love Jul 10, 2024

Hey Friends,

As humans, we're wired to detect rejection lurking around every corner 🕵️‍♀️. Be it a partner not responding to a text within 0.5 seconds, or a friend missing your group hangout for the umpteenth time, our brains can't help but raise the alarm! 🚨

Funny enough, we're so good at spotting rejection that we may even interpret the waiter not refilling our water as a personal affront 🙄💧. But let's take a step back and remember that it's not the rejection itself that stings—it's how we interpret it. 🧐

The truth is, most of the time, rejection isn't a reflection of YOU. It's more about the circumstances. Maybe your partner was just in a meeting, or their phone was on silent mode... So, instead of assuming the worst, try reframing the situation and giving others (and yourself) the benefit of the doubt. 💭💡

Here’s a simple 3 step framework next time when feeling rejected:

Identify the cause: Begin by determining what is causing your feelings of rejection. Is it a particular event, a specific person, or a certain behavior? Ask yourself: What particular situation or interaction made me feel rejected?
Reflect on your emotions: Examine the feelings that arise due to rejection and consider if they are rooted in reality or based on past experiences or insecurities. Ask yourself: Are my feelings of rejection justified, or am I misinterpreting the situation? Are my feelings of rejection influenced by past experiences that may not be relevant to my current situation?
Evaluate the situation objectively: Take a step back and assess the situation from a neutral standpoint. Consider the context, the individuals involved, and your relationship with them. Determine if your feelings of rejection are warranted or if they stem from a deeper issue within yourself. Ask yourself: Is there a logical reason for me to feel rejected in this situation, or am I projecting my insecurities onto others? What can I learn from this experience to better understand and manage my emotions in the future?